I often wonder if my ex had an internal monologue and thought before he spoke or did something. I am starting to think maybe he did not have it or was there a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other one!!

I was in a Facebook group about personality types and I found a comment that said something along the lines of “I knew some people did not have inner monologues and since they did not they had no soul”. Quite funny but I DEADASS believe it. (I am not religious but in a way having “no soul” would be equivalent to lacking empathy.

I have talked to myself out loud. Asked questions out loud in the shower and thought about what I may doing for the day, what my plans may be for the future, what I may be eating, how that last argument was 3 years ago could have gone better (lol), etc. Much like what vloggers do with cameras which now does not make me feel crazy anymore because people make money off of these thoughts. The only difference is that I am not recording myself.

Public speaking is almost the same way. I would compare this to something like one of my mass communication courses. Some key words may pop out to the reader. I may write a sentence and may type a word differently in spelling to make sure I pronounce it correctly without messing up. I may type a quick note, highlight a specific phrase and while speaking, in my mind I am thinking of something I decided to say in short form rather than reading the entire sentence verbatim. You do not want to talk like you are reading a book but wanting to make it flow as if you were just talking to yourself.

Then on top of speaking I am trying to hold back my country accent and doing a code switch which is an entirely different subject when it comes to cultural standards. Anywho, I go back to saying my ex might have possibly had no inner monologue unless he might have been trying to get something out of someone emotionally or financially. Like a good salesperson if you will.

Lœvenbruck’s research looks at inner monologues in three dimensions, according to a 2019 study she and colleagues published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology. The first is dialogality. Humans can have such complex inner speech, there’s debate about whether it’s accurate to call all inner speech a monologue. So the first dimension measures whether you’re thinking in a monologue or a dialogue. A monologue happens when you think to yourself something like, “I need to buy bread.” But other times, when you are reasoning, you might entertain and engage several points of view — like a conversation, a dialogue. 

The second dimension is condensation, a measure of how verbose your inner speech is. Sometimes you think in words or fragments. But other times, like when you’re preparing for a conversation or presentation, you’re likely thinking in whole sentences and paragraphs. 

The third dimension is intentionality. Are you engaging in inner speech on purpose? For reasons we don’t know, sometimes inner speech can just come to you or drift to entirely random and seemingly disconnected topics. 

https://www.livescience.com/does-everyone-have-inner-monologue.html

What it’s like living without an inner monologue…

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/saskatchewan/inner-monologue-experience-science-1.5486969

I am not saying that everyone who does not have an inner monologue are “evil”. They may more than likely live a more carefree life and not give a sh*t about what people think. Comparing it to “diarrhea of the mouth” if you will. Some good sh*t may come out while some may not.

Where do you fall on this spectrum?