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Around this time there is a special birthday for that special someone. Unfortunately it is a time where there is always drama with my ex husband.

Why is that?

During this time for the past 3 years there has been drama.

1. The first year was a police officer problem. Every other week a police officer was called when things did not go his way. I distanced myself. I was blamed for not wanting to participate. His mom is always there for him so it always works out for him.
2. The second year we planned an event and there was a set budget. Family members were mentioned during mediation and since he had more family members he would need to pay more during the event. I dropped my money where I set a limit in the allocation and even doing all of that, he still wanted me to add more money and not invite the people who should actually be at the party. It is as if he did not have these types of events in his own childhood that he wanted to show off in front of family members he claims he cannot stand and ruined his childhood. So I did not even attend just to avoid being stuck with paying extra which I had to mention to the venue just in case they charged my card extra out of the blue.
3. The third year I now have to deal with a flying monkey. This is another way to sabotage a memorable event and make it appear as if I do not want to cooperate and be cordial with planning. When I tried to something separate, it backfires. I have to inform him of everything I do but not the other way around. This is childish. I hate it here! ugggh
4. I wonder what next year will bring….

I try not to label my ex a narcissist. I believe there are other issues going on with him but when I find issues I end up finding something that labels the behavior as being a narcissist.

I am ready for another therapy session at this point…*looks at calendar*

It is hard dealing with someone who is not a “deadbeat” but lacks communication skills. Watch the video below…